Interpersonal EDGE

By Dr. Daneen Skube

By Dr. Daneen Skube

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 Q. I work with somebody who is a strict vegan. Not a problem except that when we have a party, go out to lunch with customers, or eat in the break room, she gives us judgmental looks and comments about meat. I don’t mind her making a choice for herself, but the disapproving glares and remarks are super annoying. How can I get her to stop?

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 Q. I have a new job that I love. My boss just took me aside and told me there was a female manager who thinks I dress inappropriately and don’t do my job well. I can tell she doesn’t like this woman one bit. I want to take feedback well, but I’m not sure what to do. I’m also concerned I could end up being in the middle of fight they are already having. How do I navigate this? 

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 Q.  When my boss asks for ideas, I find I will often state a good idea, it will get talked over, and then someone says the same thing and takes the credit. Is there a way I diplomatically can point out that I said it first?

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Q. I recently hired a guy who is very smart, but I knew he was really self-absorbed and entitled. I thought his resume and skill set would be worth his demanding attitude. I’m finding that he is pawning projects off on coworkers, lying to me about what he has done, and blaming everyone but himself for problems. What can I do now, and how can I avoid this in the future? 

 

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  Q. I have a coworker who is constantly verbally abusive. He calls me names, yells and puts my work down. I have to work with this guy a lot, and I’m ending up calling in sick just to avoid him. When I go to my boss, she just tells me to work harder at “getting along,” like it is my fault. I like my job but can’t tolerate my coworker. What can I do?

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  Q. I am one that flies off the handle and there is a big reason I do. I’m interrupted so much that when I am trying to speak, if someone doesn’t interrupt me, I actually stutter. I’ve spoken up and it still happens. Any suggestions? I’m starting to hate my fellow human beings!